There seems to be some
question as to how Hospitality should progress in Social Settings.
Here are Six Levels of Progressions to consider:
(1) GREET:
Just say “Hello”, “Good Morning”, “God Bless”. It shows you care and
value the other person.
(2) TRANSACTION:
Just process the transaction that is in front of you. Like a teller
in a bank or a driver in traffic, just make the exchange, extend
“law abiding” courtesies (hospitalities)… Show no Favoritism… Just
Process the Truth and the Facts within the context of the
Transaction without showing Partiality… Express no “False Flattery
or Flirting”… Express no Unconstructive Criticisms… For our tongues
and our thoughts (which are also prayers) have the Power to Curse
and the Power to Bless.
(3) SOCIAL INTERACTION:
This is where the person becomes more than a “transaction”. This
is someone you decide to “share a meal with” in terms of words or
maybe even food. Be sure to “invite Jesus to the table” and keep
things Christ-Centered.
(4) CARING:
This is where an issue, situation or problem is shared. They may
share, hoping they can trust and confide in you, hoping you will
“escort” then to (or through to) the next revelation or
breakthrough. At this point, you have become their HOPE, a very
Godly Privilege, so be prepared (for it is our Savior that we
represent). Be prepared to Care by being Honest… Be prepared to
Represent the Truth and the Facts without showing Favoritism or
Partiality… Be prepared to be Sincere without expressing “False
Flattery or Flirting”… Be prepared to Share without expressing
Unconstructive Criticisms… Be prepared to Bless Them… Be prepared to
Rebuke, Correct and Direct… Be prepared to Guide with the “Spirit of
Truth and Righteousness”… “Be prepared to Listen” with The Savior’s
Caring Ears.
(5) SHARING:
This is where you decide to share back. Maybe you identify with
their issue; if so, say so and give “the context of the
identification”. Maybe you do not identify with their issue at all;
if not, be prepared to give them Godly guidance, answers, solutions
and direction to the proper counsel, and let them know you care and
will keep them in your prayers. If at all possible, refer them to
someone who can help them (even if you have to come back later with
a referral, after much prayer and research).
(6) INTIMACY:
This is where you Pray or Counsel Through a situation together.
“This Point of Intimacy” (PRAYER and COUNSEL) is no time to “drop
the ball”, no time for “physical contact”, no time for “physical
admiration”, no time for “false flattery or flirting”, no time for
“emotional manipulation” (not between men and women; not between men
and men; not between women and women). Do not allow satan to tempt
you into expressing intimacy (Prayer and Counsel) in terms of the
“flesh”, “money” or “power plays”. Decide ahead of time not to go
there. Instead, be prepared to PRAY AND COUNSEL WITH THEM (NOT PLAY
GAMES WITH THEM). If the situation is not “conducive to Prayer and
Counsel”, then be prepared to exit (know your exit going in). If
they get out of line in any way, for example, they will not receive
prayers or counsel, or if they become abusive in any way (emotional,
physical, verbal, spiritual or mental manipulation); then Rebuke,
Correct and Direct them to the Proper Authority (Spouse, Pastor,
Boss, the Police if necessary).
Ultimately, women should mentor (Pray and Counsel) women, and men
should mentor (Pray and Counsel) men (unless of course the 2 are
married or are in an exclusive relationship). If you are the same
gender, or if you are single and you feel comfortable praying and
counseling with the opposite gender, then proceed with Prayer and
Counsel.
If you are not the same gender, or if you are married or single and
do not feel comfortable praying and counseling with the opposite
gender, then try to find them a same gender mentor to Pray and
Counsel with.
If Prayer and Counsel is received, then make plans to continue the
relationship by telling them “I will keep you in my prayers”, and
the next time you see them ask “How are Things Going?”, “How can I
continue to Pray for you?”, “Are Breakthroughs Occurring?”.
Do your homework. Be prepared to refer others to Christian
Counselors, Bible Studies, Prayer Rooms, Pastors, Christian Mentors,
Christian Prayer Groups, Christian Support Groups, Christian
Material, Christian Radio Stations, Christian Music, anything
Christian oriented that you feel would help strengthen their “Walk
with God”. Because in the long run, that is what Social Hospitality
is all about, bringing others back into a proper relationship/dialog
with their God and Creator, Jesus Christ.
If they do not want a relationship with God through His Word or
through Prayer and Counsel and you feel the atmosphere is safe, then
try to find out “why or what they are mad at God about”. More than
likely they do not know that God Loves Them and they may still be
trying to earn His Love rather than Receive His Love. If they
persist in rejecting God’s Love, once they have been taught that God
Loves Them 1 John 4:19, more
than likely they have problems Submitting to Proper Lines of
Authority. If you find that they are under Abusive Lines of
Authority, then help them to see that and help them to find a safe
place to dwell. If they are the Abuser, then help them to see that
and help them to seek the counsel they need from another source if
you no longer feel safe counseling them. If they persist in
rejecting Prayer, Counsel or Submission to the Proper Lines of
Authority, then we are called to “move on” because the Bible says…
“shake the dust off your feet”… Matthew
10:14, Mark 6:11, Luke 9:5, Luke 10:11, Acts 13:51. As
True Disciples of Jesus Christ, we have enough work to do with those
who truly do want to be “fed”. Do not allow satan to waist your time
and energy on people who consistently and persistently reject “His
Daily Bread”, “His Love” and “Submission to Proper Lines of
Authority”.
BLESSINGS!!!
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